Fix deadlock if peer is destroyed while sending MWI notice.

A dialog cannot be destroyed by the ao2_callback dialog_needdestroy
because of a deadlock between the dialogs container lock and the RWLOCK of
the events subscription list.

* Create dialogs_to_destroy container to hold dialogs that will be
destroyed.

* Ensure that the event subscription callback will never happen with an
invalid peer pointer by making the event callback removal the first thing
in the peer destructor callback.

NOTE: This particular deadlock will not happen with Asterisk 10, but some
of the changes still apply.

(closes issue ASTERISK-18747)
Reported by: Gregory Hinton Nietsky

Review: https://reviewboard.asterisk.org/r/1564/
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