Fix crash from bridge channel hangup race condition in ConfBridge

This patch addresses two issues in ConfBridge and the channel bridge layer:
1. It fixes a race condition wherein the bridge channel could be hung up
2. It removes the deadlock avoidance from the bridging layer and makes the
   bridge_pvt an ao2 ref counted object

Patch by David Vossel (mjordan was merely the commit monkey)

(issue ASTERISK-18988)
(closes issue ASTERISK-18885)
Reported by: Dmitry Melekhov
Tested by: Matt Jordan
Patches: chan_bridge_cleanup_v.diff uploaded by David Vossel (license 5628)

(closes issue ASTERISK-19100)
Reported by: Matt Jordan
Tested by: Matt Jordan

Review: https://reviewboard.asterisk.org/r/1654/
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Merged revisions 350550 from http://svn.asterisk.org/svn/asterisk/branches/10


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